Hi everyone,
I’m Filipino, and I honestly regret getting tuli.
I had circumcision about 6 years ago. At the time, I thought it was the “normal” thing to do because that’s what we’re told in the Philippines — that tuli is cleaner, more masculine, and something every guy should just accept. My urologist also encouraged it for hygiene reasons, even though I didn’t have phimosis or any real medical problem. Looking back, I was naive. I trusted the doctor, followed the culture, and didn’t research the possible long-term effects.
Recovery was painful and difficult, but eventually it healed. The real problem came after. I noticed sex felt around 50% less pleasurable. I didn’t understand before how important the frenulum and foreskin tissue were for sensation. I tried sensitizing ointments for months, but they did nothing. I also bought a silicone cover to protect the glans from rubbing against underwear. It helped a little at first, but after a while, even that stopped making a difference.
This past year, things became much worse. I thought it couldn’t get any worse, but now my pleasure feels about 90% gone. I didn’t change my diet, I didn’t have an accident, nothing major happened. Even orgasm feels almost empty now — ejaculation happens, but the sensation is barely there.
Because of this, I’ve lost a lot of desire for sex with my wife, and it’s affecting my marriage. It’s horrible. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.
I’ve already seen three urologists, and they basically told me there’s nothing they can do. Some suggested I see a psychologist or “redefine” my sexuality, even though I’ve already been in therapy for years. It feels like nobody takes this seriously once the damage is done.
I’m now considering buying a cover from Manhood Canada because they talk about “dekeratinization” and restoring sensitivity, but I don’t know if it actually works. Has anyone here tried it? Are there any moisturizers, oils, ointments, or protective covers that genuinely helped improve sensitivity?
I’m not looking for fake promises. I just want to know if anyone has experienced this after tuli and found something that helped.
Filipino boys are always told tuli is nothing, just tradition, just hygiene, just something you have to do. But nobody warned me that I could lose this much sensation and regret it for the rest of my life.